Make your own path
May 10, 2019
can happen at any time, can be daunting
Making your own path; it’s something which all of us want to do so it should probably be quite easy, right? Unfortunately, that isn’t even remotely the case. Making your path in life is extremely difficult and something which many of us are unable to do. We often choose the path which has already been created by someone else for us or is the one which we fall into without too much hassle and struggle. However, walking on a path which isn’t yours to begin with will lead to you living a life which isn’t yours, one which is unfulfilling and disappointing.
Often, we don’t even think about making our own path and just believe that the path we are currently on is the one which we are supposed to be on. While most of us believe in fate and destiny, leaving our life’s path up to them completely is also not the smartest solution and it is important to take your life in your own hands, and create the path you want-even if it is one which hasn’t been walked on before. While making your own path is difficult and a personal struggle, here are a few tips which might help along the way.
Figure out what you want
The first thing to do is to ask yourself what you want. Sometimes, we decide to embark on a path which we have been told to choose since we were children. This tricks us into thinking that we want to be on that path but, the truth it that though this might work for many, there are still those who don’t actually want to be on that path and when they realize that fact, it is too late to change.
So, to begin with, the goals you have in mind for your life should be clear. Then only can you strive for something which you couldn’t otherwise achieve. The path which you might want doesn’t just concern the career you are choosing, even though that is what many people think it means. It also consists of where you want to be in relation to your personal relationships along with other aspects of life. For some, the main goal of their path could be moving to a new country. For others, it could be to be owner of a flourishing business. Either way, figuring out the main goal of your life is essential before carving out the path you want to walk on.
Listen to yourself and not others
All our lives, we are continuously being given advice which we haven’t actually asked for. Often, it is surprising to see how people who we don’t even have that close of a relationship with, offer us advice. It is important to disregard this advice in life, for the most part. Sometimes, we even must disregard the advice given by our loved ones because, they might mean well but only you have the clearest idea of what you want your path to look like.
Other than listening to others, we are influenced by their achievements. For example: everyone around you is flourishing, someone has a new car while someone has a new house while you are not that secure financially in your chosen field thus making you question the path you’re on, ultimately changing it for a more financially successful one. This is something which most of us are tempted to do but shouldn’t. Again, by walking on someone else’s path, we might find the money we are looking for but that is just temporary happiness. We must stay true to the path we have chosen, and stay strong throughout, believing that we will eventually reach our goal.
Make a new path whenever you feel like
Most of us have changed our paths more than once, over the course of our lives. Some may label this as being indecisive, but the truth is, figuring out what we want from our life isn’t always that straightforward and our needs and wants change over time.
Thinking that once we have chosen one path, we must stick to it for the rest of our lives is wrong and it is important to realize that we can easily alter our course, branching out towards another goal which may seem more important than the one we had before. Furthermore, we might realize that we are walking on the wrong path altogether, having to create a new one completely from scratch. It is important to remember that there are no specific rules in association with the path we make and doing what we feel is important towards our happiness is the main goal.
Don’t get daunted by the enormity of the task
As I am sure we have established, making your own path is difficult and something which can prove to take a long time. Along the way, there will be numerous pitfalls and hurdles, all of which we must overcome to walk on the path we feel we must walk on.
This becomes even more difficult to do when we are making a path which most don’t choose, or which can face significant resistance from those around us. At times such as these, having the conviction that what we believe in is more important than the beliefs of others, is what keeps people going. History has repeatedly given us examples of individuals who worked against all odds to establish themselves and to walk on the paths that they chose, instead of the one which others chose for them.
While it is definitely easy to admire historical figures, in comparison to emulating the same strength and resolve, it is something which all humans can do. When you are feeling particularly demotivated, it is okay to wallow in pity for some time, but it’s more important to move past this, shake these feelings off and by keeping your eye on the prize, make the path of your life what it is supposed to be.